With Or Without You: A Memoir by Domenica Ruta
Spiegel & Grau ISBN 978-0-8129-9324-0
Domenica Ruta’s memoir, With Or Without You, is the story of her life thus far. Shockingly honest and honestly shocking, this is an astonishing memoir. Domenica Ruta grew up in Danvers, Massachusetts- a town where witches were once hanged. Her mother, Kathi, is a complex woman who was wildly unpredictable, frustrating and unstable. Kathi was a drug addict. During the course of the book she managed to be poverty stricken, a millionaire as well as being a drug dealer. She raised Domenica in a home filled with trash and drugs were always present. The morals of the company she kept were questionable at best. Her parenting skills left a great deal to be desired. Domenica is the child whose mother took her along when she took a fire place poker to the windshield of someone elses car. She is the same child whose mother kept her out of school to watch a movie on tv. In time, Kathi’s addictions became Domenica’s as well.As pivotal a character Kathi was in Domenica’s life, this is Domenica’s story of how she views her life. Despite the the chaos her mother created, Kathi saw to it that Domenica was educated and exposed to culture. Domenica somehow manages to describe their bizarre existence with humor and insight. She eloquently writes about how her life unravels and the realization that she has to divorce herself from her mother in order to survive.
Ms. Ruta has written a powerful, unforgettable memoir. She is a gifted writer and her story is mesmerizing.
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